An old woman was writing with a pencil.
Her grandson asked. Grandma, are you writing about me?
No, the old woman replied. You have to write your own story. But, I tell you how you should write.
Looking at her grandson, the old woman continued.
This is how you should do it.
First, you write your own story, like the pencil. It's up to you how your story should be written, how you make your life to be.
Second, look at this pencil, you write with the lead inside, not the wood outside. So, it's what inside your heart that counts, not the outside.
Third, from time to time this pencil will be blunted, just as we encountered problem in life. We need to sharpen the pencil, so we should recharge ourselves and overcome the problems.
Fourth, after writing with the pencil and if we make mistakes, we can rub off and start anew. So, in life, if we make mistakes we should admit to them and start afresh.
Fifth, notice the pencil leaves marks after rubbing off, so we should be careful not to make mistakes. Otherwise, they can become a mess to clean up.
The Emperor's Seed
An emperor in the Far East was growing old and knew it was time to
choose his successor. Instead of choosing one of his assistants or his
children, he decided something different. He called young people in the
kingdom together one day.
He said, "It is time for me to step down and choose the next emperor. I
have decided to choose one of you." The kids were shocked! But the
emperor continued. "I am going to give each one of you a seed today, one
very special seed. I want you to plant the seed, water it and come back here one year from today with what you have grown from this one seed. I will then judge the plants that you bring, and the one I choose will be the next emperor!"
One boy named Ling was there that day and he, like the others, received
a seed. He went home and excitedly told his mother the story. She helped
him get a pot and planting soil, and he planted the seed and watered it
carefully. Every day he would water it and watch to see if it had grown.
After about three weeks, some of the other youths began to talk about
their seeds and the plants that were beginning to grow. Ling kept
checking his seed, but nothing ever grew. Three weeks, 4 weeks, 5 weeks
went by. Still nothing.
By now, others were talking about their plants but Ling didn't have a
plant, and he felt like a failure. Six months went by; still nothing in
Ling's pot. He just knew he had killed his seed. Everyone else had trees
and tall plants, but he had nothing. Ling didn't say anything to his friends, however. He just kept waiting for his seed to grow.
A year finally went by and all the youths of the kingdom brought their
plants to the emperor for inspection. Ling told his mother that he
wasn't going to take an empty pot. But honest about what happened, Ling
felt sick to his stomach, but he knew his mother was right. He took his empty pot to the palace.
When Ling arrived, he was amazed at the variety of plants grown by the
other youths. They were beautiful-in all shapes and sizes. Ling put his
empty pot. on the floor and many of the other kinds laughed at him. A few felt sorry for him and just said, "Hey nice try."
When the emperor arrived, he surveyed the room and greeted the young
people. Ling just tried to hide in the back. "My, what great plants, trees and flowers you have grown," said the emperor. "Today, one of you will be appointed the next emperor!"
All of a sudden, the emperor spotted Ling at the back of the room with
his empty pot. He ordered his guards to bring him to the front. Ling was
terrified.
"The emperor knows I'm a failure! Maybe he will have me killed!" When
Ling got to the front, the Emperor asked his name. "My name is Ling," he
replied.
All the kids were laughing and making fun of him. The emperor asked
everyone to quiet down. He looked at Ling, and then announced to the
crowd, "Behold your new emperor! His name is Ling!" Ling couldn't believe it. Ling couldn't even grow his seed. How could he be the new emperor?
Then the emperor said, "One year ago today, I gave everyone here a
seed. I told you to take the seed, plant it, water it, and bring it back to me today. But I gave you all boiled seeds, which would not grow. All of you, except Ling, have brought me trees and plants and flowers. When you found that the seed would not grow, you substituted another seed for the one I gave you. Ling was the only one with the courage and honesty to bring me a pot with my seed in it. Therefore, he is the one who will be the new emperor!"
If you plant honesty, You will reap trust.
If you plant goodness, You will reap friends.
If you plant humility, You will reap greatness.
If you plant perseverance, You will reap victory.
If you plant consideration, You will reap harmony.
If you plant hard work, You will reap success.
If you plant forgiveness, You will reap reconciliation.
If you plant openness, You will reap intimacy.
If you plant patience, You will reap improvements.
If you plant faith, You will reap miracles
But If you plant dishonesty, You will reap distrust.
If you plant selfishness, You will reap loneliness
If you plant pride, You will reap destruction.
If you plant envy, You will reap trouble.
If you plant laziness, You will reap stagnation.
If you plant bitterness, You will reap isolation.
If you plant greed, You will reap loss.
If you plant gossip, You will reap enemies.
If you plant worries, You will reap wrinkles.
If you plant sin, You will reap guilt.
So be careful what you plant now,
It will determine what you will reap tomorrow.
The seeds you now scatter,
Will make life worse or better your life or the ones who will come after.
Yes, someday, you will enjoy the fruits,
Or you will pay for the choices you plant today.
Dear Friend,
I want to share with u my OWN real life experience. Sad.
Hope your family members, friends and yourself DO NOT suffer the same fate as me.
A) Sway to get targetted. My story is 95% similar to http://www.2bangkok.com/2bangkok/Scams/sapp31.shtml
B) Sad..very common in Thailand since 2002 (records cos Internet started. LOL). http://www.2bangkok.com/2bangkok/Scams/stores.shtml
For that moment, my skill and knowledge seems to vanished.
a) My knowledge of ISO, ISO audit, body langauge reading skill, International Supply Chain knowledge, transaction experience, willpower, skill to analysis and IQ all became ZERO.
b) Especially the 2nd ring that is 10mins different. Donated to them extra. LOL. THB 20,860.00 SGD$ 878.06
i) There was some appearance defect. I was a QE. (Quality controller!) The removed the so call defect.
ii) The gem is bigger size than the earlier ring I saw which difference of $300-$400.
iii) There is even more smaller diamonds.
iv) Claimed to be old (cheaper) and new version difference.
My story goes:
Scammer no. 1 (Starter)
Monday (11/09/06), my wife and me was walking to 4face buddha location through Siam station, through a new shopping mall call Central World Plaza. Saw a grand praying area but did not seem to be it. 3 in 1 statue that have 4face buddha, extra buddha head on top of them. Body different. Told by a Thai claiming that he is 50yrs old, a lawyer that walked passed us and said hello to us as we were figuring how to go 4face buddha. That was his lucky day.
He told me we are lucky, today ---> The Lucky Buddha template is open to public. Why not I go there then go 4Face buddha.
I was thinking: "No harm since I have time to waste, pray and go to 4Face Buddha".
He suggested in between go Yindee, a gem shop that less 30%. I did not bother what is talking for that part.
He even told me only 30 baht to go via a Tu-tu that wear uniform. Trustworthy. MY ASS!
Scammer no. 2 (Driver)
Amazed that it will be only 30 baht compared to usual payment that I have to pay for more than that, we got him to help flag a incoming driver, IN UNIFORM! Lawyer helped to talk to driver on where to go. Did not notice that he told him Yindee. The driver is so kind to bring us into the temple and teach me where to get incense etc in lucky buddha house.
My Thoughts: "No monk, no crowd...?? What the! Cos Monday. Today 1st or 15th? Din think...pray and go off. OMG...I am a lazy person who does not really pray except exam or to spirits."
He left me and wife to go into 2nd house with sleeping buddha.
Scammer no. 3 (Thai Airways - -Phuket Cargo Staff)
At this moment, there is this person before us or just joined us. He took incense and a candle.
Not sure about the practise in Thailand, I took only incense and wanted to borrow light.
He spoke to ask, ask us if speak English, told me not to leave after offering incense, should sit around for a few mins.
Then chat ask whether we on holiday, here often...mentioned history of Lucky Buddha and the template.
LOL...not really bother. Still have the cheek to tell me he is from Tha Airwyas airline, Phuket cargo crew.
Chat that we here only for holiday? Commented that we are stupid.
Should have bought laptop and mobile phone from SG for a profit in Thailand MBK.
I remember: my handyman did such export loophole for Indians going back but for 2nd hand goods.
I recall that those phones I saw in MBK alike cheaper than SG...
Told us that we should do it next time. For tourist, we can buy ruby/saphhire to Singapore from this shop(Yindee) that Poh Heng is buying from. Forget to ask for Poh Heng Purchase Order in the shop (no use...will also be another fake paper). Told us that buying from this place that have 30% offer, tax free, we can sell to Poh Heng after 45days. Bought it alike personal use first. Told us to go there see, ask about 4Cs, 2Gs and so on...can get to buy 5pieces only for tourist and accept credit card. Shown us a copy of his purchase. Recommend get Princess Diana design.
Left temple, the driver suggest to go (Yindee Lapidary Co. LTD, 1091/75-77 Petchburi Rd. Soi 33, Makasan Bangkok 10400 Thailand. Tel: 253-1540-1 Fax: 651-6784), we did not reject. I thought and told wife, funny - 2 person told us same shop. Did not tell driver and he is driving us there.
4, 5 and 6th scammer (Sales workers and Gemologist)
Arrived and we went in, shop owner told us the same story about them being a wholesaler and that they were having a special promotion where they sold to the public at wholesale prices. Introduced us to some samples, the 4Cs and his connection with Singapore-Thai Chamber of Commerce...which looks alike any normal meeting minutes to me. Told us no obligation..listen no need to buy also can.
7th scammer (Fellow Singaporean and the root cause of our purchase)
At the very same moment, a chinese that they say is Singaporean came to collect his puchase and leaving for hotel. Chat with us, ask us where we stay and told us the similar story in Hokkien that we heard in temple. Mentioned that this is his 3rd visit here. Wanted to ask where he stay but did not. Confirmed that it is possible for sale.
When the male Sales Gemologist told me that he loves his wife very much etc...buy every year.. I had a moment of greed that I might even have to buy a set for our mothers...which means $10k! Lucky I did not take out all my credit card. I think I can jump if I do. I brought 4 cards. Possible to sign that much. Told him another story of our chat with the Singaporean. My uncle did told me about buying ruby from Thailand. Unable to recall properly. I did not bring my mobile along due to low batt. Wanted to call him but only sms him after I returned hotel.
The finally scammers (Ourselves)
My wife like the jewellery and I can afford it. Can sell it if need. Better still, next trip buy the balance design to sell off after our wedding. Make a profit since he say Ruby and Saphhire mine dying out. A purchase will make us member. Bought the first Ruby ring @ THB 28k after 30% discount.
They shown me a men ring that cost SGD$1.3k range which I like the design but very expensive. They brought me another design which is cheaper with more diamonds. Claim to be old series of saphhire. Bigger size than the expensive one. Bought the 2nd Sapphire ring @ more than THB 20k after 30% discount. Saw appearance defect and wanted to not buy. They polish the ring and I bought it since my wife wanted to buy me as a present instead.
Happily, we bought 2 rings and left the shop. SMS my uncle at night and told me mum over phone. Uncle warned me just buy for own use. Mum did not want to say more since I bought them.
2nd day,
I went back there 2nd day to change ring size. They told me to return an hour later. Got new tuk-tuk driver to bring me to his gem shop for his guide tips. Did not buy there cos killing time and does not look nice for the gems there. Took adjusted ring and left. Ponder no receipt or acknowledgement of ring under modification etc.
The driver took us to another shop again to help him earn gasoline. This time nearly bought a matching pair of earrings $300+. We shown them the ring and the sales lady said this is not ruby!!!!!!!! Our heart sank. The manager came and claim that this is from another country. Not Thailand ruby.... felt something wrong. They introduced us to diamond range and nearly made us buy a $1k set.
We left and did not buy anymore. Return home at past midnight, type in YINDEE LAPIDARY in yahoo...I strike a SCAM.
So many articles found online about the scam,
I found it funny when a series of people I met speaks English and told me the same place. I dare not bring my new jewellery go verify the ring value damage myself further. The Truth is Sad.
Hope u be careful when u travel too.
Why Do Men Leave Relationships?
There are many reasons, one of which being they don’t like to commit very easily. Here’s an article that discusses more reasons why men break off relationships.
A Few Common Reasons Men Leave
There are many different reasons why men leave relationships or refuse to settle down with the woman they are with. It’s important for women to take a good look at these reasons. To their surprise and delight, they will discover that most of the reasons why men leave have nothing to do with them.
Some men cling to the ghost of past relationships, idealizing an old love and deciding they'll never find a person like that again. It feels safer to hold onto the past than risk failure with someone who is available today. These men prefer to dwell in a memory than to face the reality of present day life.
For some, this memory goes back to their mothers. No woman can live up to mom, or to any other woman they idealize. They begin to imagine that these other women were perfect and gave them unconditional love. Whatever their present girlfriend does is compared with that. No woman can win over an idealized memory. These men are living in dreams.
Other men leave seeking excitement and challenge. Being with someone who loves them becomes boring and flat. After years of dating beautiful women who adored him but for whom he felt little, Frederick, a handsome, articulate architect, in his late thirties, finally fell in love. It was a tumultuous situation, however. "I was in love with Fern for three years,” he said. "But I left her three times and each time she came back, wanting me again. No other woman had done that before. Fern was very neurotic. I guess that’s what attracted me.”
Some men find the lack of stability in a woman to be challenging, exciting and erotic. The unpredictability creates a situation where there is a constant sense of danger and threat of loss. This keeps these men constantly on the alert, so things never become routine. Excitement is confused with passion. There is a sense that, because of the turmoil, they are finally alive. After awhile it usually becomes too much.
"I finally left Fern and never went back,” Frederick said. “It became too exhausting in the long run.”
When men are attracted to neurotic women, it is interesting to note that these men are often attracting a partner who is expressing what he is also going through inside. She may be acting out what he is feeling and not able to express. When he finally becomes angry with the woman, he is really angry with himself. What we cannot accept in another is always something we haven't been able to accept in ourselves.
Other stresses also cause men to leave relationships. When a man is unhappy at his job, or when he feels pressured to commit, before he is ready, old dreams that haven’t been fulfilled will come up to haunt him. He then will begin to feel that this is the time to live out these dreams. These men often feel justified in abruptly leave unsatisfying relationships in search of their fantasies and dreams.
When Renee, handsome, strong, the successful owner of a well know beauty salon left for a new woman he said, “No one leaves if they're happy. After awhile you just begin to feel time is running out and you get tired of the bad stuff. You feel you don't need it anymore. You paid your dues. You're tired."
When asked why he felt the attraction to a different woman, he said, “Part of it is just plain beauty. But also she was much younger. I like that. A young woman looks up to a guy because he's older and can do all these things for her, and he adores her because she's young, pretty and makes him look good and feel good and proud." Implicit in this is a deep need men have to be looked up to, valued, respected and recognized, not only by his peers, but by the woman he's with. Especially at a time in life when a man's sense of himself is wavering, it is extremely uplifting to have a woman who looks up to him and what he has achieved. Unfortunately, at this point, some wives of long standing can only see their man’s deficits. If they then remind him of his failings constantly, it's often more than his ego can bear.
Though there are many more factors contributing to men leaving relationships, a common theme appears through all of them. The men are not necessarily responding to the woman they are leaving, but to their own inner needs, conflicts and dreams. Often they experience the woman in their lives simply as a part of their own sense of self. It is not the woman herself who necessarily causes the man to leave, but the man's feelings about himself, his own inner fantasy and quest.
Story: 1
A young executive was leaving the office at 6 p.m. when he found CEO standing in front of a shredder with a piece of paper in his hand.
"Listen," said the CEO, "this is a very sensitive and important document, and my secretary has left. Can you make this thing work?"
"Certainly," said the young executive.
He turned the machine on, inserted the paper, and pressed the start button.
"Excellent, excellent!" said the CEO.
As his paper disappeared inside the machine. "I just need one copy."
Lesson I - Never, never assume that your BOSS knows everything
Story: 2
A crusty old man walks into a bank and says to the teller at the window: "I want to open a damn checking account."
To which the astonished woman replies: "I beg your pardon, sir; I must have misunderstood you. What did you say?"
"Listen up bitch! I said, I want to open a damn checking account right now!"
"I'm very sorry sir, but we do not tolerate that kind of language in this bank."
Having said this, the teller leaves the window and goes over to the bank manager to tell him about her problem customer.
They both return and the manager asks the old geezer: "What seems to be the problem here?"
"There's no damn problem, sonny," the elderly man says, "I just won 50 million bucks in the damn lottery and I want to open a damn checking account in this damn bank!"
"I see," says the manager thoughtfully, "and you're saying that this bitch here is giving you a hard time?"
Lesson II - If you are RICH, you can get away with almost anything.
Story: 3
An American and a Japanese were sitting on the plane on the way to LA when the American turned to the Japanese and asked, "What kind of ese are you?"
Confused, the Japanese replied, "Sorry but I don't understand what you mean."
The American repeated, "What kind of -ese are you?"
Again, the Japanese was confused over the question.
The American, now irritated, then yelled, "What kind of -ese are you? Are you a Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese, etc?"
The Japanese then replied, "Oh, I am a Japanese."
A while later the Japanese turned to the American and asked what kind of 'key' he was.
The American, frustrated, yelled, "What do you mean what kind of '-key' am I?!"
The Japanese said, "Are you a Yankee, donkey, or monkee?"
Lesson III - Never insult anyone.
Story: 4
There were these 4 guys, a Russian, a German, a British and a French, who found this small genie bottle.
When they rubbed the bottle, a genie appeared.
Thankful that the 4 guys had released him out of the bottle, he said, "Next to you are 4 swimming pools, I will give each of you a wish. When you run towards the pool and jump, you shout what you want the pool of water to become, then your wish will come true."
The French wanted to start. He ran towards the pool, jumped and shouted "WINE".
The pool immediately changed into a pool of wine. The Frenchman was so happy swimming and drinking from the pool.
Next is the Russian's turn, he did the same and shouted, "VODKA" and immersed himself into a pool of vodka.
The German was next and he jumped and shouted, "BEER". He was so contented with his beer pool.
The last is the British. He was running towards the pool when suddenly he steps on a banana peel. He slipped towards the pool and shouted, SHIT.........!"
Lesson IV - Think twice before you say something, because sometimes what you say accidentally does happen.
Story: 5
A junior manager, a senior manager and their boss are on their way to a meeting.
On their way through a park, they come across a wonder lamp. They rub the lamp and a ghost appears.
The ghost says, "Normally, one is granted three wishes but
as you are three, I will allow one wish each."
So the eager senior manager shouts, "I want the first wish. I want to be in the Bahamas, on a fast boat and have no worries for a month."
Pfufffff, and he is gone.
Now the junior manager could not keep quiet and shouts, "I want to be in Florida with beautiful girls, plenty of food and cocktails for a month."
Pfufffff, and he is also gone.
Then it's the boss's turn, and he says calmly, "I want these two idiots back in the office after lunch"
Lesson V- "Always allow the bosses to speak first".
An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son.
Suddenly a crow perched on their window.
The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"
The Son replied "It is a crow".
After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"
The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow".
After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, what is this?"
At this time some _expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff..
"It's a crow, a crow".
A little after, the Father again asked his Son t he 4th time, "What is this?"
This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times
'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"
A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :-
"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times.
I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".
While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and When today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.
So..
If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble And kind to them. Be considerate to your parents.
From today say this aloud,
"I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child.
They have always showered their selfless love on me.
They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today"
Nothing in this world is IMPOSSIBLE , coz the word IMPOSSIBLE itself says I M POSSIBLE..
As the old man walked the beach at dawn, he noticed a boy ahead of him picking up starfish and flinging them into the sea.
Finally catching up with the boy, he asked why he was doing this. The answer was that the stranded starfish would die if left until the morning sun.
" But the beach goes on for miles and there are millions of starfish," said the old man. "How can your effort make any difference?"
The boy looked at the starfish in his hand and then threw it safely into the waves."It makes a difference to this one," he said.
Have you ever, at any one time, had the feeling that life is bad, real
bad, and you wish you were in another situation?
You find life make things difficult for you, work sucks, life sucks,
everything seems to go wrong...
Read the following story... it may change your views about life:
After a conversation with one of my friends, he told me despite taking
2 jobs, he brings back barely above 1K per month, he is happy as he is.
I wonder how he can be as happy as he is considering he has to skimp
his life with the low pay to support a pair of old parents, in-laws, a
wife, 2 daughters and the many bills of a household.
He explained that it was through one incident that he saw in
India......... that happened a few years ago when he was really feeling
low and touring India after a major setback.
He said that right in front of his very eyes he saw an Indian mother
chop off her child's right hand with a chopper. The helplessness in the
mother's eyes, the scream of pain from the innocent 4-year-old child
haunted him until today.
You may ask why did the mother do so; had the child been naughty, had
the child's hand been infected??
No, it was done for two simple words- -- TO BEG!
The desperate mother deliberately caused the child to be handicapped so
that the child could go out to the streets to beg.
Taken aback by the scene, he dropped a piece of bread he was eating
half-way. And almost instantly, a flock of 5 or 6 children swamped
towards this small piece of bread which was covered with sand, robbing
bits from one another. The natural reaction of hunger.
Stricken by the happenings, he instructed his guide to drive him to the
nearest bakery. He arrived at two bakeries and bought every single loaf
of bread he found in the bakeries. The owner was dumbfounded but
willingly sold everything. He spent less than $100
to obtain about 400 loaves of bread (this is less than $0.25 per loaf)
and spent another $100 to get daily necessities.
Off he went in the truck full of bread into the streets. As he
distributed the bread and necessities to the children (mostly
handicapped) and a few adults, he received cheers and bows from these
unfortunate.
For the first time in his life he wondered how people can give up their
dignity for a loaf of bread which cost less than $0.25.
He began to tell himself how fortunate he is. How fortunate he is to be
able to have a complete body, have a job, have a family, have the chance
to complain what food is nice and what isn't nice, have the chance to be
clothed, have the many things that these people in front of him are
deprived of...
Now I begin to think and feel it, too! Was my life really that bad?
Perhaps... no, I should not feel bad at all... What about you?
Maybe the next time you think you are, think about the child who lost one hand to beg on the streets.
"Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, it is the
realization of how much you already have."
When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we
look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been
opened for us.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's
also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything;
they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you
can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and
heartaches.
Please send this message to those people who mean something to you, to
those who have touched your life in one way or another, to those who
make you smile when you really need it, to those that make you see the
brighter side of things when you are really down, to those who you want
to let them know that you appreciate their friendship, to cheer up
those who are feeling down.......
And if you don't, don't worry, nothing bad will happen to you, you will
just miss out on the opportunity to brighten someone's day with this message.
Sharpen the Axe
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Once upon a time there was a very strong woodcutter. He asked for a job from a timber merchant and he got it. The pay was really good and so were the work conditions. For that reason the woodcutter was determined to do his best.
His boss gave him an axe and showed him the area where he was supposed to work. The first day the woodcutter brought down 18 trees. The Boss was very much impressed and said Congratulations Go on that way! Very motivated by the boss words the woodcutter tried harder the next day but he only could bring down 15 trees. The third day he tried even harder but he only could bring down 10 trees. Day after day he was bringing down less and less trees.
I must be losing my strength the woodcutter thought to himself. He went to the boss and apologized saying that he could not understand what was going on. When was the last time you sharpened your axe? the boss asked.
Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been very busy trying to cut the trees.
Our lives are like that. We sometimes get so busy that we don't take time to sharpen the axe. In today's world it seems that everyone is busier than ever but less happy than ever. Why is that? Could it be that we have forgotten how to stay sharp? There's nothing wrong with activity and hard work. But we should not get so busy that we neglect the truly important things in life like our personal life taking time to read etc. We all need time to relax to think and meditate to learn and grow. If we don’t take time to sharpen the axe we will become dull and lose our effectiveness.
So start from today, think about the ways by which you could do your job more effectively and add a lot of value to it.
Quote for the Week
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"We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere."
- Tim McGraw
HOW TO TELL IF A GUY LIKES A GIRL:
1. the guy will be nice to you.
2. he will tell you that you did good, even if you did horrible.
3. he might make fun of you.
4. he'll want to be your friend.
5. he might compliment you on your hair, even if you wear it that way everyday.
6. he'll stick up for you.
7. he will start hanging out with your friends.
8. he'll flirt with you.
9. he'll call you for no good reason.
10. he'll make eye contact with a happy grin on his face.
HOW TO TELL IF A GIRL LIKES A GUY:
1. they always talk about the different varieties or guys.
2. they stare at you with a smile on their face.
3. they always seem to be talking about how nice you are.
4. they laugh at all your jokes.
5. they ask you who you like, continuously.
6. they talk to your friends a lot.
7. they always are flirting with every other guy, except you.
8. they always try to make you jealous.
9. they beg you to do everything for them.
10. they always ask you what to do in a bad situation.
There are just times when u like someone, and she doesn't like u.
There are also times when someone likes u, and u don't feel the same way.
Just like waiting for buses.
When u want the stupid bus to come, it doesn't.
And yet, there are times when the bus comes and u don't want it!
U're waiting for another number.
I think my bus came,
And I missed it that time.
I was looking elsewhere.
Well anyway, i'm still wondering whether it was my bus in the first place.
There was a time, many years ago, when I took a wrong bus.
Once I realised that, I got down from the bus.
Don't waste time.
Wait for the correct one to come.
My brother told me that he no need bus liao. he booked his taxi.
And yet, I that...
There are times even when u book the cab, it doesn't turn up in the end.
Never will.
Miscommunication.
I'm waiting for my bus to come...
I think it's the same one that came the other day.
It should come again soon.
I can't wait too long though.
Maybe in the end I might have to walk alone
To the place that I should be at the end of the day.
Good or Bad, hard to say!
Once upon a time, there was a king. The king liked one of his followers very much because he was very wise and always gave very useful advice. Therefore the king took him along wherever he went.
One day, the king was bitten by a dog, his finger was injured and the wound was getting worse. He asked the follower if that was a bad sign. The follower said, ‘Good or bad, hard to say'. In the end, the finger of the king was too bad that had to be cut. The king asked the follower again if that was a bad sign. Again, the follower gave the same answer, 'Good or bad, hard to say'. The king became very angry and sent the follower to prison.
One day, the king went hunting in the jungle. He got excited when he was on the chase of a deer. Deeper and deeper he went inside the jungle. In the end he found himself lost in the jungle. To make thing worse, he got captured by the native people living inside the jungle.
They wanted to sacrifice him to their god. But when they noticed that the king had one finger short, they released him immediately as he was not a perfect man anymore and not suitable for sacrifice. The king managed to get back to his palace after all. And he finally understood the follower's wise quote, 'Good or bad, hard to say'. If he hadn't lost one finger, he could have been killed by the native people.
He ordered to release the follower, and apologised to him. But to the king amaze, the follower was not mad at him at all. Instead, the follower said, 'It wasn't a bad thing that you locked me up.' Why? Because if the king hadn't locked the follower up, he would have brought the follower along to the jungle. If the native found that the king was not suitable, they would have used the follower. Again, the quote 'Good or bad, hard to say' stands.
The moral of the story:
Everything that happens in this world, there is no absolute good or bad. Sometimes good things turned out to be bad things eventually, while bad things become a gain.
Whatever good things that happen to you, enjoy it, but don't have to hold too tight to it, treat it as a surprise in your life. Whatever bad things that happen to you, don't have to feel too sad or despair, in the end, it might not be a total bad thing after all.
If one can understand this, he or she will find life much easier.
Creating Perfect Relationships
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested, "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, Please."
"Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing.
Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to Rest."
The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand YOU need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife.
Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses.
The nightmare begins.
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticise your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive others, others will ignore our mistake too.
NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.
Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered, "You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship.
TRUST
Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation. A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of"PUB".
PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?" Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked beside them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?"
Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.
"You can never have everyone praise you nor will everyone condemn you.
Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.
Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who to blame,
whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know.
We miss out some warmth in human relationship to give each other support.
Treasure what you have. Just a little story for you~
A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage.
They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes.
When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle
open.
He was late for work so he asked the wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard.
The mother, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle and, fascinated with its color, drank it all.
It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages.
When the child collasped, the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died.
The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child,
he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.
QUESTIONS :
1. What were the four words?
2. What is the implication of this story?
ANSWER :
The husband just said "I Love You Darling" .
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior.
The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life.
There is no point in finding fault with the mother.
Besides, if only he have taken time to keep the bottle away, this will not happened.
No point to blame. She had also lost her only child.
What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband.
That is what he gave her.
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective,
there would be much fewer problems in the world.
To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
To be happy with a woman you must understand her a lot and I love her with all your heart.
"A journey of a thousand miles, begins with but with a single step."
Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and
fears AND you will find things are actually not so difficult as you think."
1. Get a good impression for others.
If u think u are ugly den go for a makeover.
If u think u have a nerdy hair den get it done.
Don`t wear like a maid or gardener.
If anyone ever comment on how u look n wear ask them wat they think u should change n not curse them n swear at them.if u think u have big butt den don wear tight jean instead wear loose jean otherwise it make it look bigger.if u think u have small boobs den wear sexy and something attractive so that guy will overlook on that but pls don wear like prostitude.Ask and look around your friends especially those who look attractive and always have suitors one lo.If someone tell u they don mind looks actually they are lying la.Any guy wan kiss mo xiao ling?Any girl wan kiss hui-ge? Cmon get over with it.They may not look for pretty girl or handsome guy but they bound to have certain standard.I don`t recommend to go lose weight however just remember If u think u are obese, den there are also obese people in this world.Always smile haha nobody like bitter face
2.increase your social circle.If u have this mindset nah i don`t know this fat girl or i don`t wan know this ugly guy but who knows they may have attractive friend that u will end up like so don`t restrict ur friend area especially for guy hor.
3.Go out with ur friends more.Staying at home will just get u no where.
4.Take failure as a experience gain.Nobody will have 100% success in relationship so don`t just think that the end of ur world coz that ain`t going to happen.The same also goes to those guy who go know a complete stranger.If u like the girl den jus go.If u go at least chances are 50-50% and if u don`t none.
5.Don`t be shy talk to ur new friend more.If u happened to know any new friend, don`t be shy n keep quiet the whole day.Den end of the day both of u will end up knowing nuts bout each other.
It is not 100% work but it sure increase ur chances especially u know the right way to make over.certain people look good in certain clothes n certain people look good in certain hairstyles.Everyone is different some may not look good in certain clothes n hairstyles.So do go find out once u find the answer well i guess it won`t long before someone like u.
Hope this helps...
Above article extracted online.
My tip: Believe in yourself. Keep on trying.
PS: Lighting do strike twice...
A student asks a teacher, "What is love?" The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the padi field and choose the biggest padi and come back.
But the rule is: "You can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."
(Once you missed it, you cannot go back to it.)
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big padi, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one... but may be there is a even bigger one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the padi f ield, he start to realize that the padi is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted !!!! So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him, "...this is love... you keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person...."
"What is marriage then?" the student asked.
The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the bigges t corn and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.
"The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, "this time you bring back a corn.... you look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.... this is marriage."
A group of working adults got together to visit their University lecturer. The lecturer was happy to see them. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.
The Lecturer just smiled and went to the kitchen to get an assortment of cups - some porcelain, some in plastic, some in glass, some plain looking and some looked rather expensive and exquisite.
The Lecturer offered his former students the cups to get drinks for themselves.
When all the students had a cup in hand with water, the Lecturer spoke:
"If you noticed, all the nice looking, expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones.
While it is normal that you only want the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.
What all you wanted was water, not the cup, but we
unconsciously went for the better cups."
"Just like in life, if Life is Water, then the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold/maintain Life, but the quality of Life doesn't change."
"If we only concentrate on the cup, we won't have time to enjoy/taste the water in it."
"Faith gives us a new vision of the world. Without it we see only the darker side of life. We are still slaves. It is faith which liberates us and makes us see the Spirit of power and love at work in our lives."
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